Minimizing Ulterior Motives in Communication for More Efficient and Loving Interactions Communication goes a lot better when we learn to take responsibility for what we feel instead of blaming another person, trying to fix them, or manipulating them. This is called “owning your experience [1]” in a lot of circles, and it is an important skill […]
A Timeless, Effortless, and Little-Practiced Secret to Starting and Maintaining Quality Relationships. The secret is actually so simple that I am pretty sure it will disappoint you. But that does not keep it from being true. Like most perennial wisdom, the secret to picking up the perfect girl is deceptively simple, and yet often difficult […]
How to Create Instant Intimacy with Anyone The Power of Welcoming and Sharing the First Person Perspective of the Present Moment I went to a fantastic event recently called the Integral Living Room. It was my favorite Integral conference or workshop ever; the most embodied, interactive, and meaningful one I have been fortunate enough to attend. I […]
How do you Define Success? Redefining Success in Relationships Many people think that a romantic relationship is only successful if it ends well—which is usually defined as marriage “til death do us part.” This is a recipe for unhappiness, and it does not recognize the complex reality of two humans relating to each other over […]
Thankfully the Social Media Generation Never Breaks Up My sister just sent me an NYMag article entitled “All My Exes Live in Texts: How the Social Media Generation Never Really Breaks Up.” [1] It’s a fun read, and there are certainly many things I relate to in the article. There are many ways in which I’m […]