Check Your Privilege: The White Male Discussion How Universal Human Experiences of Victimhood and Guilt Lie Behind Seemingly Opposing Points of View I was disappointed by that Time article by a Jewish college Freshman named Tal Fortgang who didn’t like being told to “check his privilege,” but I was just as disappointed by the way the black […]
Dear Jordan: How Do You Go About Feeling More Deeply? A Rare and Underappreciated Skill Dear Jordan, When you know there is something bothering you, and you realize you should allow yourself to feel it deeply rather than avoiding the feeling, what do you do to feel it? I ask because I am increasingly aware […]
Judgment is Impossible And It Generally Doesn’t Make Us Happy Some of the world’s greatest wisdom traditions teach that to get what you want, look at removing that which you don’t want.[1] So, one way to get happiness is to remove all the things that make us unhappy. And one of the things that causes […]
If You’re Not Doing This, You’re Forgiving Wrong True Forgiveness: Correcting Misapplications of Forgiveness I find that forgiveness is often misunderstood. I often misapply it (but I’m forgiving myself for it). The First Mistake: Forgiveness Means Someone Else Screwed Up First, there is the common notion that forgiveness means pardoning someone for the wrong they […]
One of the Most Powerful Techniques for Lasting Peace The Practice of Moment-to-Moment Self-Forgiveness (previously published on DailyHap.com on 5/08/13) I’m going to share with you a technique I believe is one of the most powerful mental technologies available to us for personal growth—and for deep, lasting peace. What is it? Simply put, you give […]