Is Your Desire to “Save the World” Ruining Your Life? Finding the Ego in Making A Difference I often hear of people wanting to “Save the world.” Even though I do not think it needs saving[1], I relate to that phrase. I want to make a positive impact on the world around me, and I […]
Help! I Want To Stand Up For Myself But I’m Afraid Of Causing Pain Dear Jordan, How can setting and having boundaries be loving? I know you have said I can just say no but when I try to do what I know is best for me, my friend seems to be really hurt and […]
Communicate Authentically to Find a Fierce Love Beyond Social Niceness Dear Jordan: “How the heck do I communicate to an acquaintance that I’m willing to be friendly, but I have no desire to invite her to events or spend time with her? Isn’t that insincere? But if my only other option is to give her […]
Why I Do Not Believe In Pathology & How this Affects Happiness and Spiritual Awakening There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with your life. Despite what I tell you, despite what advertisements tell you, despite the idea of enlightenment, despite all of the changes you want in your life, all of […]
A Timeless, Effortless, and Little-Practiced Secret to Starting and Maintaining Quality Relationships. The secret is actually so simple that I am pretty sure it will disappoint you. But that does not keep it from being true. Like most perennial wisdom, the secret to picking up the perfect girl is deceptively simple, and yet often difficult […]
Why Acceptance is Required for Change In “Awareness is Love,” we discussed fully engaging the moment and loving what is. I mentioned that it was not a happiness strategy, but nevertheless a friend asked the question: How do we get rid of the bad if we accept it in ourselves? The Distinction Between Acceptance and Agreement In […]
How to Create Instant Intimacy with Anyone The Power of Welcoming and Sharing the First Person Perspective of the Present Moment I went to a fantastic event recently called the Integral Living Room. It was my favorite Integral conference or workshop ever; the most embodied, interactive, and meaningful one I have been fortunate enough to attend. I […]
Misusing Meditation The Limits of Mindfulness Sometimes people try to use mindfulness and meditation to get rid of what they consider an unpleasant experience. Because the practice of meditation is so powerful and our experiences can be so painful, this is quite a common temptation. Yet it won’t help, and it is actually going against […]
Uncovering the Sneaky Ways We Use Humor to Repress Emotions It’s a common occurrence for humans to feel like our individual problems are absolutely the worst thing in the world, yet it’s just as common to feel like our problems aren’t as bad as someone else’s and therefore don’t merit the emotions we feel. In […]